One of the solutions that struck me the most was the idea of connecting. Although I'm very much aware of the idea of connecting, it's funny how the busyness of life can trump such an obvious idea.
How often do you really connect with your loved ones? This is a big challenge for most of us. While we might spend a lot of time in the same room with our partners and children, we aren't always consciously connecting with them.
The truth is, it's so easy to be distracted these days. The TV is on, the cell phone is binging or ringing, activities and appointments take precedence over family dinner and by the end of the night every one is too pooped out to spend any real quality time with each other.
When we spend too much time disconnected from our loved ones, there is always a consequence. Right now for us, the consequence is a little girl who is seeking negative attention.
The good news is, is that we can solve the problem of disconnect simply by making a conscious choice to connect every single day. As our family therapist reminded me, quality is so much more important than quantity.
Since it is my mission this week to work on connection with my daughter and other loved ones, I wanted to offer you the same challenge.
How can you connect with your family? What can you change, add or remove? How can you protect and guard this quality time so nothing interrupts these precious moments? What times of the day will work well for this kind of connection? What can you do during these times?
One final golden nugget that my family therapist recommended... She said to imagine that Cara had a little tank inside of her; everyday that tank needs to be filled so she will feel loved and secure. She asked me how I could fill that tank and to visualize how I would want it to be filled if I was four years old.
Wow... I love this idea of the tank. I began to consider how I would want my own tank to be filled and how I would want to help my husband and my children fill theirs. What a powerful idea to consider and you I challenge you to consider the same.
If you decide to take on the connection challenge, I would love to hear from you! How do you connect with your loved ones? What do you do? How does it work and what is the impact?
Until next time my friends... enjoy the connection challenge!